A Ladyboy or Katoey (in Thai) is a transgender or a transsexual and most of them are based in tourist neighborhoods. There are ladyboys in most bars here because simply put, it’s much easier for women to earn more money in these areas. People from South-East Asia have some very specific physical predispositions that allow a lot of people to easily change their gender unnoticeably. That’s why it might be hard to recognize ladyboys on the streets of Thailand, especially if you’re visiting for the first time. I’ve even seen many of them that were just as beautiful as girls, if not even more!
Ladyboys are perceived differently by different kinds of tourists. Some want to avoid ladyboys, others are terrified by them, while some purposely seek them. However, Thai people are known for being very accepting, and in fact, I can say that’s part of their culture.
They don’t look at ladyboys in a bad way and are generally not judgmental in regards to the choices that other people make. Be like them!
Personally, I have nothing against transgender people and they have my full support when it comes to expressing themselves.
I just thought it would be a good idea to write this article and give fellow travelers some useful tips on how to recognize ladyboys in Thailand because at times that might seem like a mission impossible.
1. Pay attention to these parts of her body:
Girls generally have narrow shoulders and broad hips, while ladyboys have broad shoulders and narrow hips.
Women’s forearms are a bit bent, while men’s forearms are straight;
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The average height of a Thai woman is 157.3 cm (about 5ft 2in) while the average height for a man is 167.5 cm (about 4 inches taller).
Ask her to hold her arms out straight and try to bring her elbows together without bending the arms. If she has a normal female skeleton she will easily be able to do this. If not, congratulations, you’ve found a ladyboy.
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2. Pay attention to these things about her face:
Males usually have a higher hairline than females;
Males have a horizontal ridge of bone above our eyebrows, while females have much smoother and flatter forehead;
The eyebrows of females are generally positioned higher and there’s more room between the eyes and eyebrows;
Males’ jaws are wider, taller, and often have a sharp corner at the back.
3. The voice
Ladyboys, especially the ‘recent ones’ try to speak in a higher voice so they can sound more like girls. However, recognizing this is something that takes a lot of time to perfect. You would probably master this skill after staying in Thailand for a couple of months.
4. The hands
Generally, men have bigger hands than women. However, I met a few Thai guys that had unusually small palms. When in doubt, just take her hand and check whether the skin is smooth like it should be with most girls or not.
If her ring finger is longer than her index finger, I’m sorry but she’s probably a he.
5. The way they dance
I heard this one from an old player that’s been visiting Thailand for more than 20 years: ‘the majority of them can’t dance to save their life because they still have the male gen’.
6. Playing with their hair
Ladyboys almost always fidget with their hair because they are not used to it and are being quite self-conscious about it.
7. Location, location, location
Check the map of the city that you are visiting, and speak with locals before going out, especially in Bangkok, Pattaya, and Phuket. For example, Soi 6 district in Pattaya is well-known for having a lot of bars where you can find a lot of (female) escorts. Soi 6/1, on the other hand, just a few feet away, is known for its ladyboy bars.
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8. Are you a ladyboy?
Like mentioned, Thai people are pretty open-minded and there’s no shame in admitting if someone is a ladyboy. Now, of course, some might get upset if you think that they might not be all woman but if you ask in a cautious manner, everything should be fine.
9. Ask for her ID
None of the previous methods is foolproof. They are all subjective and might vary from case to case. The only foolproof method is to just ask for their ID. Nowadays all Thai ID cards are in Thai and English language both, so if you ask for the ID (you can say you’re asking it to check their age) and see Mr. someone, you have your answer.
Finally, like the local people, respect the ladyboys. They are human beings and should be treated as such. If you don’t want anything to do with them, just decline politely like you would with a real girl. And avoid arguing with them, cause that might end up bad and just ruin your vacation.
Sunday 23rd of April 2023
I grew up with five sisters, so i always bragged that i can spot a woman a mile away and i cant be fooled. Now that im retiring to thailand i see my instincts could fail there. So thanks for the education on how to identify a ladyboy, although i sure i make friends with them its just that im not into that... So thanks cause i have tested the arms out straight theory and you absolutely right...
Tuesday 25th of April 2023
You're welocme, Murvin, I'm glad you enjoyed the article and found it useful :)
Mr F Knuckle
Tuesday 17th of January 2023
The easy way to find out is to grab the groin area
Wednesday 24th of August 2022
Great info PS. In my extensive experience, a ladyboy will make sure you know that they are a ladyboy. There won't be an oops,SURPRISE! It just doesnt happen.Whether Thai or Filipino.Philippines is very accepting of them as well.I must say these women are a joy to be around.
Saturday 10th of September 2022
Thank you for sharing some of your extensive experience, Roadrunner.
Saturday 11th of June 2022
Interesting. And ladyboys on Thailand os something else than TS in West. One thing that I have noticrd, right or not – looking on a Thai dating site, I get the impression that many thai girls label themselves as "average" or "not very attractive", even if they are stunning, while most ladyboys label themselves as "attractive" or "very attractive".
Sunday 19th of June 2022
That's an interesting observation, I haven't paid much attention to it. Thank you for contributing to the discussion
Wednesday 4th of May 2022
Forgive me father for I have sinned. If you're are drunk, you have absolutely no chance to recognize them.
Wednesday 1st of June 2022
Your comment really cracked me up, Arash, thank you for getting involved in the comments :)